City Geisha

Happy Friday, bitches! Hope you’ve all had a great week. Now the following post is looooong overdue and I would like to tackle a subject that has been on my mind for some time, spurned on what I have seen around me not just with my friends but with strangers whose conversations I over hear in the changing rooms at my gym, etc.

SELF - LOVE. You know what I am talking about, the love that you have yourself, synonymous with self esteem, confidence, self reassurance and having that knowledge coming from the bottom of your heart that self-love is the most powerful potion of all. I’m not talking about being narcissistic or ego-centered, though I do believe that it is healthy to be a bit of both but within reason. As the late Leo Buscaglia once said, to care about oneself is basic to love. Man loves himself when he sees himself with accuracy, genuinely appreciates what he sees, but is especially excited and challenged with the prospect of what he can become….

I truly believe in the Law of Attraction, whereby like attracts like and if you truly want something, you must behave as if it’s already happening and take on certain positive actions towards your goals and wishes. As such, the Universe will align itself so that whatever it is that you want shall be granted.  Act miserable, loathing, hateful and you will repel all the good and wonderful people that you would otherwise meet. Respect and love thyself and your positive vibe will be felt by others and draw them in!

Seek yourself and become the best YOU

Too often I see friends breaking up with their respective halves, coming out of a split feeling doubtful and self esteem taking a bashing and they believe that acceptance and reassurance will come in the form of the next guy that comes along who will show them some attention.  Sure it’s nice to receive compliments and they sure do boost your self esteem but to constantly rely on outsiders to provide you with assurance and tell you how great you are, etc.  is unhealthily. And going back to the Law of Attraction, more often than not, those who have not taken the time out to nurture their souls  and love themselves after a breakup only risk setting themselves up for further disappointment when they hook up with a creep because it’s better than being on their own.

If we don’t respect and love ourselves, we may not attract a person who’ll respect and love us in a healthy, nurturing way. Does this sound like you? Start by behaving in ways that communicates to others that you’re a person of worth and deserving of respect. Your self-esteem affects how people behave and interact with you.  It’s also crucial to have realistic expectations of yourself based on your abilities. Those with low self-esteem tend to have extremely high expectations for themselves and others.  Lastly, choose your friends and dating prospects carefully! The people with whom we associate can help or hurt our self-esteem. I personally like to surround myself with happy, positive, supportive people. Life is too short to be friends with bitches and a&&holes who will only stress me out and bring me down.

Also relish in your solitude, it’s good for the soul and gives you a refreshed perspective on life.  Seek what truly  makes you happy and become the best you. The following is such a cliche but it is so worth saying “Love yourself first before you can love others”.  When you love yourself, you will love others. And to the depth and extent to which you can love yourself, only to that depth and extent will you be able to love others.

Happiness does not come in the form of a hunky man. It’s only a bonus if he comes along =D

Whilst we’re on the subject of love, I would now like to end this post with one of the best videos I’ve seen on YouTube in a long time  You might have seen it. It’s crazy. It’s romantic. It’s quirky. It’s original. I love it.

Have a great weekend, love to all! xoxo